At Spiritual Friendship, Chris Damian has posted this piece on the true meaning of love. He pushes back on the idea of “love at first sight,” which is really a selfish love. It is based on how the other makes one feel rather than on true knowledge of the other. Here is the meat of his post:
You can only “love at first sight” if you’re in love with an idea. Loving a person requires something more. Each person requires a particular love. So if you’re going to love a particular person, you’ll have to learn who that person is, what that person needs, and how you can fit into that. And as the person grows, so will the way you fit into that person’s life. Love is a lifetime work.
As always, I’m very grateful for the work of our friends at Spiritual Friendship.